Finding out that you're pregnant is one of the most exciting moments of a woman's life. It is hard to not immediately scream the news from every roof top and every social media account. This is BIG....and a really really hard secret to keep. But there is a time and place for everything...including announcing the best.news.ever. Here are some guidelines on how to do it right.
1. Dad comes first
While you and your BFF may be true sisters and your mother is going to be over the moon when she hears the news, Dad really needs to be the first to know. He is after all, the only contributing member to the conception team here. You know him better than anyone so I'm sure you will find just the right way to tell him he's going to be a dad. Just be sure to do it in person....no text messages or social media on this one...tagging him is not ok.
2. Family comes second
It’s important that you tell your and your partner's family about the pregnancy before making a general or social media announcement . You can decide when you’d like to tell them, whether it’s right away or only at the end of your first trimester. There are lots of amazing ways to reveal your news and there are no rules as far as timing. If you are ready to tell them at week 8...do it!
3. Be gentle with friends and family struggling with infertility
Just because you’re pregnant, doesn’t mean you have to avoid friends who are struggling to fall pregnant, or not tell them about your pregnancy. In fact, it’s important to share your news with them as soon you’ve told your partner and family. Tell your friend in person in a private setting, and be thoughtful when you break the news. Try not to complain about pregnancy symptoms and fears, and remember to tell her that you care about her and that you know your pregnancy may be hard for her to deal with. If she needs to process the news, give her some time to do so.
4. Put Instagram and Facebook on hold
Before making the news public on social network sites, go through your friend list and make sure that all family members and very close friends have already been told in person. Once you’ve ticked that off your list, you can decide how you’d like to announce the news on your social network sites.
6. Tell your boss before your colleagues
However tempting it may be to tell your colleagues about your pregnancy, hold back until you’ve shared the news with your boss. Preparation is key when you plan to break the news to the man/woman in charge. It may be wise to research your company’s policies on maternity leave and have an idea of what your post birth game plan is. He/she may have questions about how much maternity leave you plan to take and if you have any planned permanent changes to your work schedule.
7. Fire when ready
The age old rule of announcing is to wait till the end of the first trimester before telling friends and family about your pregnancy, but it's now 2020 and this is your life and your pregnancy. The choice is really up to you, and when you feel ready and comfortable to share the happy news.